‘Valentine’s Day? Valentine’s Day?‘ shouted your partner through the house, ’is it almost Valentine’s Day again? You just told him that you would love to have a romantic dinner out for two. Have some nice time together.
He didn’t feel like it
But by the tone in which he said it, you could already feel the mood coming on.
And, yes, there you had it. ‘Valentine’s Day is stupid! It’s the epitome of a commercialised day blown over from America. I won’t take part in that nonsense. Can’t we just go out for dinner some other time?’
You said nothing
Yes of course we could, but you wanted it on Valentine’s Day. You in a nice new dress and your partner in that suit in which you find him so handsome in that nice restaurant. Candles on the table, great food and taking the time for good conversation. Lovely without the kids, who manage themselves just fine on their own. But he didn’t want to and you had no idea how to convince him yet. So you remained silent. There went your dream.
And you recognised this feeling. In your job interview, you also try so often to indicate what you are capable of. And it is not seen and not heard, because you get a rejection every time.
You gathered courage
In your husband’s case, you dared just a bit more. Of course, you still tried to seduce him. How long it had been since you had done anything together and you could reminisce pleasantly. But it was in vain. Once your partner has something in his head, it’s not in his ass. Basta.
Somehow you thought yourself that there really shouldn’t be a reason or a special day to tell your partner that you love him. If you only do it on Valentine’s Day, it’s time to give yourself a good scratch behind the ears.
Oh, that rut
But you just felt the need to do something special this year. Just like at work where it’s also all a bit of a drag and why you’re applying to get out of there. But where, in job interviews, you also don’t know how to convince them that you are best suited for the job and you get an offer.
Is that recognisable? Thought so.
In a job interview, you want your value to be seen. In your relationship, you just wanted to feel loved again, get attention, be special. Because your relationship has become a drag. The depth is gone. With teenagers at home going to bed late, it’s not easy to have a quiet romantic evening together.
She did
But Valentine’s Day wasn’t going to be it for you. And so, on 14 February evening, you just sat at home with the children eating stew. Which you cooked. In your jeans. Like every other day. Nothing special, in other words.
And the sour part is that every year your neighbour Angela is invited by her husband to eat at a top restaurant. And when he comes home, he has also brought her a huge bunch of flowers from that good flower shop. And Angela has also recently started a new great job, something like the one you would like too.
Of course you wish it for her
But you want it too. But you didn’t have to count on that. Not with Valentine. How you would love to feel seen and appreciated by him. And not with job applications either, because no one sees that you are the right person for that new job.
And that’s not what you want. You want to be seen. And to get that new job.
And you can.
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